Manners refers to a person’s way of behaving towards others. It is the manners which separate the man from the animals. A person without manners can hardly deserve to be called a human being. Good manners imply polite social behavior.
They play an important role in one’s life. Good manners are the means of developing social relations. They help a person in making good friends. Thbuild one’s reputation as one grows up. The social standing of a person is judged by his manners. Polished and polite manners create a healthy impact on the society.
Learning good manners should be done early in life. Good manners come from parents. It is essential that parents should themselves be good mannered. They should teach manners to their children. Some parents go on meeting the demands of their children. They do not care to teach them good manners.
Such children grow up as spoilt individuals lacking manners. Later on, the parents repent. It is generally seen that parents advice their children to speak and to behave politely but they themselves talk in impolite manner with teach other before children.
This thing affects the children and they also start behaving like that. So, it should be avoided by parents. Therefore, it is necessary that parents guide their children at the right time. Good manners need to be cultivated. Children with good manners are liked by all. Ill-mannered children bring disgrace to the family.
Children also learn good manners from their teachers, elders, good friends and other. All round development of a child possible only if he is groomed in good manners. Good schools lay great emphasis on the cultivation of good manners in their students. Children can learn a lot from good schools and good companions.
Good manners are the backbone of the society. They are essential for social life and individual peace and comfort. Good mannered people are respected and appreciated everywhere. If a person is dressed well, it does not mean that he must be possessing good manners as well. A man without manners remains savage. Therefore, it is very necessary to have good manners.
Courtesy and politeness are the key to good manners. Words and phrases like ‘I am sorry’, ‘Please’, ‘Kindly’, ‘Thank You’, ‘Sir’, ‘Madam’, ‘I beg’ your pardon’ etc. should be used often. They create a healthy impact and a sense of respect on the minds of others. If they are spoken at the right moment in a soft and sweet voice, they work wonders. Even if something negative has to be said, it should be said in such a way that it does not hurt the feelings of the other person. One should also respond positively to a negative situation.
One should be tolerant about the opinions of others. One should not raise one’s voce in anger or distrust. One should learn to disagree gracefully. Good manners demand respect for the feelings and opinions of other people. Once should not be criticized for having a different view on a particular subject. Discussions on controversial or sensitive issues lead to nowhere. One should void getting involved in such discussions.
Today we find that good manners are in danger of imminent extinction. People are rude and intrusive on the phone, they do not show any courtesies to the other person. There are some people who cannot bear to be parted from their mobile, no matter where they go. They always attend their phone-calls, ignoring the place and people around them.
The new propensity for addressing everyone by their first name, irrespective of age and status is also not regarded as good manners. Insensitivity to the feelings and needs of other people has become endemic. Sometimes our co-passengers in train, bus or even in place bother little for the comforts of others. There must be some minimum courtesy level to maintain. The rude inconsiderate behavior is also very common, when people use public gym, library, cyber cafe, food outlets etc. People do not even bother about the inconvenience caused by themselves.
One should be considerate to elders, ladies, the sick and the handicapped. One should always offer them a seat while traveling in a bus or a train. An old lady or a blind man should always be helped to cross the road safely. While riding vehicle, one should not blow the horn unnecessarily. One should not ridicule the blind and the lame or other handicapped people. If one talks one should listen too. it is a sign of bad manners if one goes on talking and does not listen to what others have to say. One should not interrupt the others while speaking. One should avoid using slang language. Litter and garbage should be thrown only in the garbage bin. One should not spit where one is sitting or standing. One should also develop good civic sense. The mouth should be covered with a handkerchief while coughing or sneezing.
Good manners enrich the personality of an individual. A well mannered person is liked by everyone. Good manners enhance his value and make him a precious human being. Good manners cannot be borrowed, but have to be cultivated over a long period.