Good manners form an important part of our civilization. We know a man form his manners. Manners are important for our conduct in the society. So, we put too much stress on learning manners. Parents want to teach manners to their children. Teachers want to teach manners to their pupils. Mentors want to teach manners to their disciples. Because manners are so important for us.
Manners are very useful. Manners make us gentlemen. We are called gentlemen when we show good manners. Good manners make friends for us. Because people like to make friendship with the people of good manners. Good manners may turn our enemies into our friends. But bad manners will surely turn our friends into our enemies. So, we should be very particular about our manners.
The basic principles of good manners:
There are certain fundamental principles on which all our manners should base. They are as follows. We should not hurt the mind of others. We should not wound the feelings of others. We should avoid pride, vanity, emotion, anger and harshness of voice when we behave with others. Our talk should be always plain and sweet. We should give patient hearing to others. We should speak less of ourselves. Our attitude should be sympathetic. We should learn how to make appreciation of others. We should observe the forms of behavior like ‘please’, ‘kindly’, ‘thanks’, ‘sorry’, ‘no, thanks’, etc. when they are due. We should be respectful to our elders, and superiors. We should be loving and kind to our youngsters. We should be sincere in our attitude. We should not make false promises. We should never deceive. We should be neat and clean. These are some of the basic principles upon which all our manners and behaviors should rest.
Manners at home:
We should obey our parents and elders. We should care for the old and the weak. We should be loving and kind to our youngsters.
Manners at school:
In the school we should make kind behaviors to our fellow students. We should help the weaker one in their study. We should respect our teachers. We should salute our teachers at the first meeting in a day. We should work well in our subject of study. Because not to be sincere for a subject is a disrespect to the subject-teacher. We should not criticize our teachers. We should maintain proper discipline in the school.
Manners at a general meeting:
We should behave properly when we are in a meeting. We should obey the president of the meeting. We should not disturb or interrupt when one is speaking. We should not indulge inside-talking when we are in a meeting.
Manners at interview:
Sometimes we shall have to appear at interview in order to get a job. There we shall have to be very particular about our manners. We should not go before them unless we are called for. We must keep sitting on the waiting bench till they call us. We should not ask them to call us. We will allow them to call us at their convenience. We should keep proper discipline and silence when we are on the waiting bench. We will go before them immediately after we are called for. There we will salute them. We shall not sit unless we are told to sit. We should always pay attention to what they ask and say. We should not look round here and there like monkeys. We will answer to them in a gentle voice. We will answer that much which they want. We should not move our legs, hands and heads. We should not put our hands on their tables. We should not stand so close to them. We should be very neat and clean.
Good manners are quite essential for us. So, students should try to observe good manners at every place. Teachers should guide them in this respect.